For the past 10 years I worked as a School Counselor at an alternative
high school - I loved my job, but I was feeling stuck and realized I was
ready for a change. When I finally started doing something about this
“stuck” feeling, I went full speed ahead! I started looking for a new
school counseling job, and at the same time, completed training to become a life coach! This year I accepted a position as a School Counselor in the Homeless/Highly mobile department at Minneapolis Public Schools,
and I started my new business as a life coach!
My ultimate GOAL is for my clients to connect to the badass that exists within each and every one of them! It wasn’t until my 40’s that I finally connected with my own badass self! I have to admit, I’ve had a pretty damn good life, but I’ve had struggles (anxiety, depression, emotionally abusive relationship etc.) that have gotten in the way of me being able to completely embrace my true self - it was through radical, authentic self-care
that I was able to find that connection.
What got me to that point? An unhealthy relationship! For several years I was in an on-again, off-again relationship with someone who I eventually realized was emotionally abusive. It wasn’t until my therapist identified the relationship as emotionally abusive that I realized that’s what it was. Me, a mental health professional who counsels young people on healthy relationships, didn’t even realize I was stuck in an
abusive relationship! That’s how good narcissists are - they manipulate and mess with your head so
much that you don’t even realize it’s happening. No one understood what I was going through -
except those who had also experienced narcissistic emotional abuse.
After one of many times that I cut this man out of my life, I decided that finally it was time to really take care of myself. Around the same time, my dad gave me a book for Christmas - You Are a Badass, by Jen Sincero. This book started me on my road to self-care and life coaching! I had read about and “practiced” self-care in the past, but this time I really dug into it, through what I now call radical, authentic self-care.
the NON-therapy dog
I read...a lot - specifically about self-care, mindsets , the law of attraction and positive psychology. I started learning about and getting energy healing services like reiki, and I hired a life coach for myself.I loved reiki so much that I even became a reiki master myself! I’ve never been a super “woo woo” kind of person, but energy healing has been a huge help for me! After one of my reiki sessions, I had an aha moment - I could be a life coach and help other women who are getting out of emotionally abusive relationships- because I’m someone who actually gets it! I immediately signed up for and completed a Life Coach training program through The Institute for Life Coach Training.
And here I am today, Melissa Winship, board certified (BCC) professional life coach!
Now I want to share what I learned with you,
because you too deserve to live your best life!